Sometimes, no actually most times I get discouraged, I feel the need to back off and just letting people be, that my constant reminder is actually quite bugging and totally unwelcomed, I get the strange feeling that they’ll roll their eyes at the sight of my message (not that I have enough courage to walk up to them anyway) and say “there she goes again” and you actually can’t blame me for feeling this way since the few people who I actually see open the message say just that “you have started again!!”. Anyway like I said that’s what happens sometimes, other times I get a message, it actually just takes a message from someone who appreciated the reminder to keep me going. The purpose of today’s blog is not to tell you that I’m discouraged (nah! Far from it) it’s to talk about the awkwardness that accompanies correcting someone especially on a religious matter.
I know you’re thinking “it doesn’t have to be awkward, it just depends on how you go about it” but the thing is, I don’t know about you but I really hate embarrassing situations and the thought that what I’m about to say might embarrass who I’m about to say it to (even if it’s just the two of us) makes me feel so bad, I mean I know it’s for their own good, they most likely won’t feel embarrassed (more like relieved) and I’ll feel great for having done something good and all but I just get this cringing feeling and then it’s really awkward, so much so that I’d rather just let the matter go, or take too long convincing myself that it’s the right thing to do that I lose the chance to do it.
Weird right? I know! I know! But what I also know is that I am not alone in my weirdness. So yeah I’m writing this post for all of the strange people like me who feel bad about doing something good.
It is your responsibility
Yes I said it, it is your responsibility to correct what is wrong, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil.
Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Whoever amongst you sees an evil, he must change it with his hand; if he is unable to do so, then with his tongue; and if he is unable to do so, then with his heart; and that is the weakest form of Faith”.
Remind! For reminders benefit the believers
You probably think “Chances are that they already know what you’re about to say to them so what’s the use” you’re right, they already know but you’re forgetting is that no one is smart enough to remember all that he knows, so this isn’t you teaching someone something new but you reminding them of something they probably forgot.
And remind, for verily, the reminding benefits the believers Q51 v 55
You may feel awkward about correcting someone but if you’re sincere then you’ll feel much worse if you don’t correct them, you should feel better knowing that you did the right thing. I guess what I’m trying to say is that pointing a person who is about to stray in the right direction isn’t just the right thing to do, it is the humanly thing to do, so don’t walk away from it, thinking it really isn’t any of your business because the fact is that it is. May Allah guide us all (amin)
This serves as today’s edition of Revive a Sunnah and the Sunnah I’m pointing at is ‘enjoining good and forbidding evil’.
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Peace be with you…