Mirror! Mirror! Who is the fairest of all… ?
You are the fairest of all!
Ha! Ha! Ha!
I find myself constantly wondering – what image do I project, how do people view me – by me, I mean my blog :), I know what I see when I look at it, but what do people see when they’re not looking through my browser that recognizes me as me? Unfortunately for me there’s no magic mirror to tell me (I love cartoons), so I improvise, I visit my site with a different browser, and that about does it.
It occurred to me that the same could be applicable to our real lives, only in real life people don’t worry much about how they look (their character), they’re often too busy playing mirrors – constantly pointing out the faults in others forgetting that a mirror doesn’t see itself.
You’re a mirror for the people around you in the same way that they’re your Mirror, so before you get too carried away with the role – what kind of Mirror are you.? More importantly, what kind of Mirror surrounds you?
They tell you what you want to hear when you want to hear it, though it’s not necessarily the truth. They mean no harm but comforting you with lies does you more harm than good, meanwhile you could use a little comforting every once in a while, you deserve better.
As the name implies, they’re broken and would love nothing more than to see you shattered (misery loves company) and their primary target is your self-esteem. For them no matter how hard you try or how good you’ve been, there’ll always be something that you didn’t get right, and they’re only too happy to correct you publicly. Although they’d be telling you the truth, but it won’t be to make your better, since they’ll be correcting you in a manner that makes it difficult for you to accept. Stay clear of them or better – be their magic Mirror.
These are people who see you for who you are, love, adore and care about you, they’d go out of their way to make you feel better, if they’re correcting you, you can be sure that it’s only to make you better and they’ll tell you the truth no matter how much it’ll hurt. They’re usually not the kind of people you meet with everyday, but the once in a while chat with them does you so much good. Wondering what image you project? Ask them, they’d know, or just watch them and you’ll know. Surround yourself with this kind of people – they’re good for your self-esteem, be this kind of person – help others be better.
Abu Hurairah (May Allah bepleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “A Muslim is a brother to a Muslim. He should neither deceive him nor lie to him, nor leave him without assistance. Everything belonging to a Muslim is inviolable for a Muslim; his honour, his blood and property. Piety is here (and he pointed out to his chest thrice). It is enough for a Muslim to commit evil by despising his Muslim brother.”
Peace be with you…