I find it very funny hearing people say “I’m never ever going to do that” (yeah right!) when in the real sense of things, if they were to look back at all the things that they said they’d never ever do, most of it is done and by none other than them. I’m not judging, I’ve only realized the stupidity of saying never ever and I thought that you need to know it too.
I guess you’re probably thinking that you’re principled and thus if you say that you’re never going to do something then you’ll never do it, the only problem is that this isn’t a question of principles, it is a question of knowledge, knowledge of the unseen that I’m certain that you don’t have. If you’re saying that you’d never do something it’s like saying you know exactly all that’s going to happen to you in the future and so you know that your life can’t change, neither can your perspective change to such an extent that you’ll do it – and frankly, you don’t!
Let me give you a scenario: Let’s say you’re someone who doesn’t go to bed early, you’ve probably never gone to bed before 12am,most of the time you were probably doing nothing, just couldn’t sleep and so you assume that you can never go to bed before 12am, and then you tell your friends that you never could. Now imagine that same you getting a job which requires you to be out of your home by 6am and not back before 8pm, it’s work all day, no naps or rests. What do you think is going to happen to your sleeping routine? No, I’ll tell you – it’ll change without you meaning to, you’ll just find yourself asleep by 10 pm. At the time you were saying never you meant it – that’s principle, and at the time you’re doing it – that’s you not knowing.
My point is that sometimes things just happen out of our control to show us that nothing was ever under our control, we don’t have any power or might over anything, and the sooner we accept this the smarter we’ll become, and then we’ll never say never (I think I just said never, lol)
And never say of anything, “I shall do such and such thing tomorrow.”
Except (with the saying), “If Allah will!” And remember your Lord when you forget and say: “It may be that my Lord guides me unto a nearer way of truth than this.”
Surah Al-Kahf, Verse 23 – 24
The beginning of wisdom is realising that all power and might belongs to Allah and that he does as he wills, so the next time you’re saying never, add a little clause to it – ‘in sha Allah ‘
Peace be with you…