Telling lies is one of the acts that regardless of our religion, ethnic, tribe or culture we can all agree is wrong but it is also the one act we almost can’t live our lives without, some people are more guilty than others but the fact remains that at some point in our lives we have all told lies….
People call lies different names to make them feel better about it – white lie, harmless lie, twisting the truth – but no matter what you call it, in the end it all comes down to what it is – a lie.
For the purpose of this post I have categorized liars into two groups
The Habitual Liars
These are the people who don’t have to think about it, consider it, mean it or make an attempt at it, all they need do is open their mouth and whatever comes out of it you can be sure that it’s a lie. It comes to them naturally, It has become a part of them, almost as though it were flowing in their blood. Most of them don’t even consider it wrong and the worst part is – most of the time- they have no idea why they lied.
If this is you, and you’re thinking – what’s the big deal? It’s just a lie, it’s not some major sin right? No! Wrong. What you don’t realise is that telling lies make you a hypocrite and if you still don’t know what is wrong with that then you seriously need to build a better relationship with your Qur’an.
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “There are three signs of a hypocrite: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he is trusted, he betrays his trust.”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
The White Liars
You know how sometimes when you lie to somebody you tell yourself it was for their own good, or that it was to protect them or that it was just a harmless lie – a white lie – well if the purpose of the lie wasn’t to settle a dispute between two people, to win a war or to bring peace in a family then it isn’t worth lying about. So before you make yourself comfortable about a lie being white or black you better make sure the lie is worth telling.
Umm Kulthum bint `Uqbah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, ‘The person who (lies) in order to conciliate between people is not a liar, when he conveys good or says (something) good”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
The narration in Muslim added: She said, “I never heard him (she meant the Prophet (PBUH)) giving permission of lying in anything except in three (things): war, conciliating between people and the conversation of man with his wife and the conversation of a woman with her husband”.
Like I stated early, no one’s the holiest, we just need to be more conscious of the things we say, in a world where telling a lie is as easy as telling one’s name – the policy to live by is – ‘say good or remain silent’
Peace be with you…